When it comes to relationships, there are two main types– romantic and nonromantic. This type of distinction is not only about if they contain intimacy, but also if they are built upon friendship first. Nonromantic relationships are simply that – no romance involved.
A nonromantic relationship can still be very strong and meaningful for both people in the relationship and outside of it. It just doesn’t include any kind of intimate connection other than friendliness.
Romance is often considered more desirable, but this belief is heavily influenced by media. The average person believes that all good relationships have to feature some degree of passion and intimacy, but this isn’t always the case.
There are many examples of successful nonromantic relationships. What makes them work well is how much effort each party puts into their partnership. They may not feel passionate about each other at times, but they show up consistently for each other.
This article will talk about what it means to describe a relationship as romantic or nonromantic, why it matters, and then some tips to create a nonromantic relationship that is just as powerful.
Definition of romance
A romantic moment is not necessarily made up of flowers, chocolate, or expensive dates. It can be as simple as holding hands while walking down the street, to kissing for hours.
Many people consider making eye contact, listening to each other’s stories, and giving each other thoughtful gifts to be key components of what makes a relationship feel romantic.
Throwing a small party or going out for a movie that you both wanted to watch are easy ways to add some spark to your sex life.
Having a good time together is a great way to enjoy each other’s company, but having a deeper connection is more than just fun activities.
Building intimacy is an important part of any healthy relationship. Having sex is a perfect way to re-focus on each other after spending time apart, but doing something else like holding hands or sharing a meal can have similar benefits.
Ways to be more romantic
Being romantic is not a one-time event, it is an always-evolving thing. You do not have to wait for your significant other to ask you if they are loved before you show them love in return.
Give someone your attention every day by doing their favorite activity or asking about their day. Ask how things went at work and tell them what you learned there. Make lunch dates instead of dinner so that person does not feel too pressured to eat with you.
When she/he comes home, leave something special for them; maybe a card, flowers, or both. Check out their Instagram account and see what they share – this will give you a good idea of who they are and what matters to them.
Keep in touch consistently! Don’t miss important meetings because you want to be somewhere else or you just don’t feel like it. Stay connected even when you think they seem distracted or busy.
Ways to be less romantic
Being more neutral in your emotions can help you avoid being labeled as not romantic enough or not able to connect with others.
Certain behaviors that are considered romantic, like kissing, can be learned and practiced by most people. Teasing each other and laughing at the same jokes is totally fine and doesn’t make anyone feel weird.
Having intimate conversations about things that matter to you both is also something most people know how to do. If you’re having trouble getting into this groove, try talking about what you have noticed in each other’s lives for a few days before bringing up anything deeper.
If you notice that your significant other is avoiding intimacy or leaving you alone, it may be time to look for another relationship.
Message in your gestures
Sometimes you can get so focused on trying to make someone feel good that you lose sight of what they need. You may spend time with them, give them lots of attention, and never see any signs of interest or desire.
This is very frustrating for both parties involved!
If you notice that your significant other is not as enthusiastic about being with you as before, it might be because they have given up hope that things will change. They may believe that it’s too late and that you don’t want to keep talking to them.
It’s totally understandable if this situation has got out of hand and you feel hurt, rejected, and even lonelier than ever.
But here’s something important to remember: it’s never too late to love somebody. If your loved one really does care about you, they will try their best to show it.
They will put more effort into making sure you are happy and confident in yourself, by listening to your ideas and supporting you. And they will look you in the eye when they talk to you, instead of looking down at the floor or away from you.
And if you ask them how they are, rather than telling them what you think they should say, they will tell you.
Relationships take work but there are ways to restore the faith that each person needs in order to feel valued and loved.
Message in your words
There’s an old saying that love is made out of nothing more than messages you send to each other every day. Over time, those messages add up and influence how you feel about each other and what you want from each other.
Whether it’s eye contact, smiles, thoughtful touches, or conversations, there are many ways to show someone you care.
Making efforts to be with each other goes beyond having dinner together once a week. It includes investing in shared activities, supporting each other in important ways, and keeping open lines of communication.
If you think this has been happening already, then great! But if not, start now.
Add some romance to your relationship by trying something new. Or keep doing things you’ve done before but do them with extra passion and intimacy.
The easier way to stay motivated is to compare your current state of affairs with what you wanted earlier.
You’ll know when you’re successful because you will feel it. You’ll also notice others around you who are happier and less stressed.
